r/WhitePeopleTwitter Sep 23 '22 Silver 3 Helpful 5 Wholesome 5 Take My Energy 1 Bless Up (Pro) 1

Who makes you feel unsafe?

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u/clemkaddidlehopper Sep 23 '22 Silver Take My Energy

I get what this person is intending, but I also feel like this is a little bit white knighting, infantilizing, and condescending. Trans and gay people are human too, and not all of them are nice or “safe.” There are some better and some worse individuals within these groups, just like with all groups of people.

There are some people — straight conservative Christian men, even — who may have values and priorities that vary vastly from my own, yet they may not be “unsafe” towards me.

I have been sexually harassed by a gay woman, for example. I didn’t come away from that experience thinking all gay women are bad — she was just a bad egg.

I have had plenty — many more — bad experiences with men who consider themselves to be straight conservative Christians as well, but I have also known some of these types of people who genuinely tried to love others the way they think God or Christ would.

I am an atheist who dislikes religion and the oppression that comes from it. I think forcing Christian conservative values on others in our society is misguided and toxic. However, I also don’t think it is healthy to put gay and trans people on a pedestal. If we want people to treat LGBTQ+ folks as human beings, we need to allow them to be imperfect .

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u/unsympathetic_ns Sep 23 '22

Completely agree, I just made a similar comment before seeing yours. I am a gay male and have been in many situations where other gay men have made me feel unsafe. They’re not a monolith of harmless, funny, accepting and compassionate angels.

I’m not detracting from her first statement, and I agree with it. It’s more the other commenters here don’t seem to understand that behavioral and social problems don’t disappear when someone comes out of the closet.